Sure, you're a sexual person, but save that for someone you like. This way it's in your power to choose whom to date and with whom you share your personal details.
DO post a head shot where you are dressed down looking happy and easy-going.
No change: it’s still the best shot; better, in fact, than straight-up boob pics (more on those later). The male “Ab Shot” has the same reputation as the My Space Shot — it’s an Internet cliché that supposedly everyone thinks is only for bozos.
We at first thought this was just because, typically, you can kind of see down the girl’s shirt with the camera at that angle—indeed, that seems to be the point of shot in the first place — so we excluded all cleavage-showing shots from the pool and ran the numbers again.
A sexy photo is without a doubt the Holy Grail of online dating, and I’m not even close to overstating it.
Regardless how sophisticated your online dating profile or how cool your byline in Tinder is, regardless how intriguing and innovative your opening message or how smooth your text game is, if you don’t have at least decent photos, you’ll be fighting with one hand tied behind your back.
And that's when they asked me the question that would change my online dating life: Can we see your profile and photos? I showed no personality and came off as self-absorbed and mindless. But resist the urge to hold up your phone, snap a picture and post it. Men don't want to be reminded of the competition when they are looking for women to date. DO post a shot of you looking fun and/or interesting. A picture of yourself holding a camera (if you're a photographer) or playing the guitar shows you have interests.
It shouldn't have been a surprise that the men who contacted me would be the same. What I learned is that there are three questions many men ask themselves when viewing your profile usually in this order: 1. At best you look ashamed to be online, at worst, like a crazy recluse with nobody willing to take your photo. Are you leaning against a wall with your butt sticking out? Also, don't post photos where you cut out your ex-boyfriend people can always tell. Another option is to post a photo where you're out with a friend (just one, not a crowd) looking happy and social.
This will draw the attention of men who may have missed it or skipped over it the first time.