‘And because I had to send Tom away after his kind visit with the Easter eggs, he rang me to say he is now seriously depressed due to the fact we chose to spend Easter with my mother-in-law and not him — and so it goes on,’ she says.
When my parents divorced, thirty years ago, my younger brother was the only one of the five kids who hadn't gone of to college yet.
He was in his mid-60s and still working — he had his own business.
He always says he would never have left Mum, but the affair had been going on for years and she felt she couldn’t forgive — that their whole life had been built on a lie. Now 75, she uses a walking frame inside and a wheelchair outside.
Any divorce causes a ripple effect of anger, hurt and guilt.
Those emotions don’t die — they are buried alive and resurface again and again over time.
The adults may not realize that there are many more negative impacts on children who are parentified than positive.